Our inner protectors

Good morning world!

As part of my ongoing CPD I’m currently training in Internal Family Systems. This model is used in family, couple and trauma therapy as a way to understand the protector roles of parts inside of of us and how they may sabotage our healing or connection with others. It was developed by Dr Richard Schwartz as a way to help people connect with and better understand their inner world and is used a lot in complex trauma work. In fact it was a recommendation as part of my Clinical Trauma Specialist training (yep that’s me ⬆️)

An example of a part sabotaging connection could be anger and rage triggered by a fear of rejection and abandonment. The protector is the rage, protecting child you who was abandoned. The trigger is fear of another person leaving due to painful past learning experiences. If the other person appears to severe connection ie because they’re busy or distracted this can set off the abandonment feeling which activates the protector. By reacting in anger though you may actually alienate yourself further from the person you were wanting to connect with. Does this sound familiar anyone?!

In trauma therapy we explore ‘parts’ a lot but this model takes things far deeper. This model gives some wonderful opportunities for creative exploration of our inner world.
I’m really looking forward to integrating this level of exploration in to my work and drawing on the work my Resilient Families Project and Resilient Kids Project workshop series ❤

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Psychotherapist and coach, mother and lover of the outdoors. Trauma worker, advanced EMDR practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner. Helping you be your best possible self.