New mini podcast!

Join Rethinking.you on Soundcloud where you can hear my dulcet tones as I talk trauma informed stuff. This week I asked my Facebook followers what they’d like me to cover and one of the suggestions was creating healthy sleep habits. Listen to #1 The intentional practice of sleep by Rethinking.You on #SoundCloud Click on this […]

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Mindhack | Coregulation for lovers

Morning lovers! 👫👬👭❤🦄 not just heterosexual lovers but any lovers (I liked the colours on the image dont shoot me!) Coregulation is the act of intentional soothing of your nervous system to help another person feel safe. It works because our nervous system has evolved through the Ventral vagal complex to use social cues as […]

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Inner child work

So I’ve talked about inner child healing before and it’s a big topic in therapy and wellbeing circles. In fact as I’m sat here in a busy cafe drinking coffee in town I can see lots of different behaviour patterns being played out in kids and parents alike. Its where my former early years professional […]

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Healthy boundaries

Something shifts gears once you begin to foster healthy boundaries… and it’s one of the transitions I love witnessing with my clients. In particular you can see the change in their relationships which were perhaps quite codependent and unhealthy in their patterns. How the person talks about their needs starts to change from focussed on […]

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The importance of connection

Self regulation and social connection 🧠 Polyvagal theory explains the evolutionary process of human vagus nerve development. The most recent developed section in evolutionary terms is the Ventral Vagal Complex which is responsible for fight/flight mode AND the inhibition of this activation through social connection to help self regulate. For babies this means having the […]

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Mindhack | Building your inner tribe…

I love seeing and hearing people cheerleading for others. It’s such a wonderful trait… but sometimes we need to be a cheerleader for ourselves and build our inner squad. This is a lovely exercise I use with clients when we are working on building resilience and self worth. Resilience is about our ability to cope […]

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Mindhack | Sparking a little bit of joy…

You know how children squirrel things away in pockets… can you remember how exciting it was to have little trinkets of loveliness? Somehow as adults we forget to do the things in childhood that bring us joy. Often we resort to other things to sooth and please us… this maybe a shopping habit or one […]

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